1. Never take a bad day you just had or any bad mood for that matter out on your partner. They are NOT your punching bag and it will hurt them as much as it would hurt if they did that to YOU.
2. Don't gawk at the opposite sex when you are with them. I had an EX who would constantly tell me to "Look at her big boobs," or, "Isn't she hot?" Its DISRESPECTFUL and we are insecure enough without you telling us which chick you see could replace us!
3. Call when you say your gonna call!
4. Don't be overly J. Jealousy can kill a relationship. I understand a little bit of "J" but let's not get too crazy with thinking every single guy that comes across my path is sexually involved with me somehow. This is a HUGE TURNOFF for women and we will think you are insecure, and we will eventually LEAVE YOU because of this if it is too over the top.
5. Always put the toilet seat DOWN after you pee. We expect this common courtesey, but if you repeatedly DON'T do this, it will truely piss us off so just DO IT!
6. Hold my hand in public once in a while. I am affectionate, but not crazy with it, and I LOVE it when a guy will grab my hand in public. Its this sweet little, "Yes, she's with me" message that we love to tell the world when we are in love.
7. Don't constantly ask if I like, or love you. Reassurance is great, but if you are too needy, we will wonder if you really ARE worthy of us.
8. More on needy--We know in the beginning there is the fresh, "new car" smell in the air, and we want to see each other all the time, and spend hours talking on the phone. HOWEVER, some guys and girls for that matter, can take this and run a little too far with it. I had a guy who was so needy, I literally felt like I had a matress over my face and I couldn't breathe! There is a point where we ALL need some alone time. I think its great to see each other all the time, but just know that this can a. burn out the relationship fast and you get sick of each other, and b. cause either of you to feel smothered and back off
9. Don't fill us in too soon on all the nitty gritty. I love to find out about you, but in good time. I don't want to know all your little sexy fantasies on our 2nd or even 3rd date. Let me find out in good time. It's all part of the "getting to know you" phase. Why? Because if you tell me you love anal or that you can't wait to bang me till my eyes roll back in my head, and I am not ready to hear it, the last thing you will remember is the back of me running away, fast.
10. Sex. I know we are ALL HORNY and all need it! Yes, I get it, I need it just as bad as you do, but I am able to supress it better. Chances are, I want to have sex with you just as badly as you do, maybe even more. BUT, in the back of all women's minds is this; "If I sleep with him too soon he will think I am a slut," or "If I give it up too early, he may just be looking for that and then will leave," or "What if I sleep with him now, and I am very attached to him and he leaves? I will be crushed!"
You can tell us all you want about how you are not going to leave, and won't think that. We will never believe you. We know the penis rules the school, and if it wants us, it will do anything in it's power to get us. Now, I have broken this rule a few times and he either stayed or bolted. So would I do it again? Not sure....
11. Don't introduce us to your friends TOO SOON. I don't want to know your friends yet if I barely know YOU. The friends will always have your back and will be picking us apart when we meet them. Its not fair to us if we don't even know you yet and they are asking us 20 questions. I want to know YOU, then your friends, in good time. Like, when we are definately gf/bf, but not after a few dates.
I'm sure there are more, I just can't think of them right now.
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